Upwork Scammer.

Life has a way of kicking you especially when you're down. This blog is about that very thing.

I've had a bad run lately and it seem to be getting worse, thing just keep piling up. I have been looking for remote work lately as I don't have any other option at the moment and we all know how looking for anything on the internet opens us up to scammers and hackers, but then there are people like me who blog about those scammers and hackers, so people can be as safe as they can be in the messed up, greedy, hateful world we live in.

Let's start with how I managed to find this particular, very convincing scammer. I signed up with a website called Upwork (now this is nothing bad about the actual Upwork platform) where people/companies can hire freelance workers and sometimes even hire for an ongoing position, but not everyone using this platform is honest. As we all know every platform has it's bad guys. Moving on. Upwork has a 'points' system called connects, you spend connects on applying for jobs. When you start you are given some connects for free but when you run out you have to buy them or subscribe, however you can earn them by winning an interview and replying. I spent 10 connects og applying for a job the title was, "Short blog writing job, no experience necessary." so I figured it was the perfect opportunity for me. I wrote my cover letter, submitted my proposal and waited for a response just like I always do, I got a response quickly, the person i spoke to asked me to E-mail her, so I did. 

I look 'Frank' up on telegram telling him who I am, how i found the job on Upwork and asking if I had contacted the right person. He said yes and asked my location, name, age and gender. I gave him all of that nothing that isn't obtainable by the public I gave him the country I live in, my name, age and gender. He then went on to explaining the job without telling me exactly how much work it was going to be, then told me to get it done in 24 hours. Once he sent me the project I realised there was no way i could get it done in 24 hours, it was transcribing 200 screenshots into word documents and converting it into a single PDF file with very specific page and font sizes.

so I began. I worked on it for hours before I realized the time frame he gave me was impossible without spending money on the app that I needed to convert it, I was typing it out by hand. I messaged 'Frank' telling him I was only on the 60th one and that it would not be done in 24 hours he said "finish up, ok" that made me angry he didn't care one bit that I stayed up all night working on it and didn't sleep. That should have been the moment I quit, but I'm not quitter I was determined. I then got very curious as to how many words it might come out to be, so I put what I had done into a word counter... over 10,000 words. I then messaged him even more angry telling him he was ridiculous to think that anyone could do this by hand in 24 hours and that he wasn't getting it when he wanted it because it was going to be at least 30,000 words he just kept saying "finish up, ok." I will never be ok hearing those words again, I will get angry because this situation was just adding to everything. So after pulling an all-nighter, being exhausted, upset and feeling completely defeated I decided I was going to take off for a bit. I called a friend up and left trying to ignore my problems. I didn't come home till almost 2 days later after my friend had given me a harsh but much needed lecture. 

The universe decided to give me one last final kick before I got so mad I was just done. My phone that was a free phone for people who can't afford one got cut off because I put in job applications and one of those jobs reported that I had put in an application resulting in my phone being cut off (according to the customer rep I spoke to) so I got a hold of someone else, told them what was going on and asked for help, so I got a phone card and had a little money left over and I payed for the app so I could get this job done and be able to keep a phone on I spent 9 more hours working and finished I then put it into the word counter 33,737 words, that's not a blog it's a novela. 

I contact frank and tell him it's finished, he gave me an E-mail to send the finished project to for review. I send the project and a bit goes buy and get an E-mail saying my work had been accepted with this picture attached. 

he then wanted my bank number, name on account and name of my bank. I gave him that because I know he would need more information to withdrawal and he could only deposit with that information. 'Frank' asked if i got a mail. I told him I did. The E-mail was asking for me to contact someone and give more information. that's when I told 'Frank to send the money through Upwork, because I did some research and it turns out you're supposed to do everything through  the Upwork website including getting paid. (I really hate being new to things and not having anyone to tech me). after that he never responded the project took me a total of 26 hours and the app cost me $10.00 I wasted my time my money and got kicked again but the silver lining I love to find in every situation I can now warn other people of this scammer and help protect others from going though what i did or worse.

here I will show you what the job opportunity looked like on Upwork so you can identify it if you are looking for work on Upwork.

Here I will show you the telegram account you should never contact.

and the E-mails to avoid are

Santanderbankinglegal@gmail.com

Reviewmanagement0@gmail.com

Applicationdesk6@gmail.com

I hope this can help someone out in time before it becomes a problem. As for me I'm back on the search hoping to find something soon. If I come across any more scammers in my search I will wright another blog. stay safe guys and good luck. 

 

  

Anger Management Self Help

 My journey with anger management has been a long one, I did get help from a pro but she taught me how to do self anger management and it's sometime very hard but not impossible.

The first thing you need to learn is why people with anger problems have so much trouble controlling it. A lot of the time it is because your amygdala is firing to fast for your prefrontal cortex to keep up, your brain is very complex and hard to understand at times, now the amygdala is like a trigger or button once it is activated there is no stopping it however there is a second button I call it the control button which is your prefrontal cortex sometimes that button is harder to push but it can be done. The best way to get your prefrontal cortex to react is time, if you are getting angry and feel that burning red hot rage take control and walk away from whatever is making you angry, yes I know that is hard to do but trust me you can do it. Sometimes if you can't actually walk away from it then use as much self control as possible and sit there not talking, if you don't add fuel to the fire it will eventually go out and you just need to hold out. Sometimes it helps to escape to a pleasant memory or thought of something that makes you happy, it might even be the person you are angry with, remember how much that person means to you and remember that you don't want to lose this person or hurt them.

Sometimes it's not just an overactive amygdala it can be something that is constantly triggering your amygdala and you are so use to it that it seems like you get angry easily or that you get very angry very fast but that is not the case, you are angry all of the time you just don't notice it. The best thing you can do in this case is to figure out what exactly is making you so angry why are you mad all of the time. The major questions you need to ask yourself is:

What happened to you in your past?

Who hurt you?

What hurt you?

Did you lose someone?

What feelings are you repressing?

What did you never let go?

What are you not saying or talking about?

Anger is not a main emotion it's a reaction emotion due to something else you are felling, this is how you figure out why you are mad, you can be feeling sad or alone or even disconnected so if you are angry I want you to incorporate "I feel" statements start off by saying "I'm mad/angry because..." for example:

I'm angry because I feel disrespected. Than ask why you feel disrespected, understand it and express it in a calm verbal way. do the same with every other emotion that triggers your anger.

I'm angry because I feel like I have no control.

I'm angry because I feel sad and I feel uncomfortable to feel sad.

I'm angry because I feel unloved.

I'm angry because I feel alone.

I'm angry because I feel unheard.

Keep saying these statements and asking yourself why you are feeling disrespected, sad, uncomfortable, unloved, alone, unheard and any other feelings that you have, not only will this help you to calm down but it is also a great communication tool to help you explain to the other person in the situation what is going on inside your head and gives that person more of an understanding so the anger can die down on both sides, but sometimes in the moment you forget your tools so once again step away from the situation, take a beat and think.

Let me tell you a little bit about a situation recently where I forgot my tools and didn't walk away from the situation.

Recently someone brought up something I was very uncomfortable with and instead of me saying how I feel I got angry and let it tear me down, I let my thoughts and feelings about it eat me up and hurt me, I eventually verbally expressed it but not before I let it almost destroy me. I felt unloved, disrespected, out of control, not good enough, sad, alone, abandoned, ugly, unworthy, left out, I felt like I was second best, I felt unimportant, I felt cheated, disconnected, replaceable, I felt like giving up, I felt hurt, broken, I felt like everyone was better then me and my response was anger, red hot rage in the pit of my soul, the thoughts going through my head consumed me and scared me, I just couldn't believe the situation and the things that happened leading up to that situation, yes I let myself go, I let my anger control me and it hurt me so much more, I'm still upset about the whole thing but I've got my control back and yes it still hurts, the pain doesn't just go away but the anger does because I know why I was angry and knowing is half the battle.

Don't let anger control you, you control the anger or you will only end up hurting yourself.